I listened to a program by Caroline Myss on Self Esteem recently and it got me thinking about how judgmental we can be, and the real reasons for our judgements of other people.
Most, if not all, people have self esteem issues around some aspect of their lives. Body image and level of success are two of the biggest ones that I see most often. We think we are too fat, too thin, too short, too tall, to dark skinned, too light skinned, the list goes on and on. Judging ourselves that way is bad enough because we are all beautiful and perfect in our own way.
A lot of time we project our own low self esteem by being judgmental of others too. My family likes to watch Dancing With the Stars. It’s easy to sit at home and say things like “I cannot believe she is wearing that” or “What makes him think he can dance? He doesn’t stand a chance!” What are we really saying when we judge the stars like that? A lot of times, if we really think about it, we will find that what we really mean is “I wish I had the nerve to do that.”
Gary Busey was on DWTS last fall, and no he wasn’t the most gifted dancer on the show. It was very easy to be judgmental of his performances. Once you get past the judging though you can learn something important. He looked like he was having a lot of fun though.